“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance”
Oscar Wilde
I am tired of hearing people (women especially) put themselves down, beat themselves up, and/or constantly allow themselves to swim in a sea of negativity all because they are not their ideal clothing size (as dictated by the media & fashion industries).
I did not realize being a certain size makes a person a better parent, more intelligent, more compassionate or even more honest…the list is endless!
Why are so many (ladies) obsessed with being a certain size? I am beginning to think it is a deliberate ploy to distract us from what is really going in our communities, in society and around the world.
Being overweight does not make me a bad person, neither does it mean I should be ignored or ridiculed by society. The reality is I cannot control the behavior or actions of others. However, I can choose how I will behave and respond to others.
I have chosen to love and respect me. I am having the lifelong romance that Wilde talks about- and its great!
I am happy to look in the mirror and smile at the beautiful voluptuous woman looking back at me. It’s not perfection but a work in progress that I can be proud of.
It’s my choice that my dress or shoe size (big feet) is not part of my value system or linked to my self esteem. Therefore, I do not feel the need to apologize for being plus sized. Neither do I have the urge to over compensate by being too loud and over the top.
I am happy just being me. Me, is a professional working mother. Integrity and compassion are part of my world. Laughter is my medicine, music brings me joy.
Dress size or weight should not dictate how we enjoy or live our lives. This life we are living now, is really not a dress rehearsal, it’s the real thing. Don’t let life pass you by, don’t be fooled into holding yourself back, by using your size as an excuse not to take action.
Feel good about yourself, we all have so many wonderful qualities about us-don’t ignore them. Create your own value system and define who you are. Never give away your power. We can all learn from Nike and “Just do it”. Whatever IT maybe!!!
I couldn’t agree with this more. It saddens me when i see beautiful women hold their head down because they are curvier than the so called norm. I love my hips… the swell of my thighs. I like my thick waist and ALL. I have lost weight so that I may be healthier… but never to fit into a smaller size. Confidence is a must have for ANY woman… not just plus sized women.
Here is a question for the masses though… where did all of the negativity towards plus (fuller) figures start? Media? Our schools? Home?
Danielle,
You make a good point. I think that the negativity started at home and radiated out to the rest of our society. It is such a part of everyday lore now that I don’t think we will ever know the origins.